The truth.

 About everything. Every detail. Anything they ask and anything you feel the need to share with them for whatever reason. Let me say it again, cause it really is that simple, and powerful and at times, difficult. The most important thing to tell your partner in a relationship is the truth.

Depending on what a relationship means to you, this may seem blatantly obvious and even retundant as a question. On the other hand, it’s the about everything part, that may throw some people off. 

It is actually the real trick to making any relationship work and in fact, it doesn’t have to be difficult, it can be simple and powerful to bond your relationship. Bring you closer together. 

It all depends on what your relationship is all about. 

What you are looking for. The age old question for online dating and the only polite but direct way for a woman to find out if a man is just looking for a hook up. That kind of sums of dating in your 40’s.

But what is coming of the younger generations and what is becoming of our values and loyalties in life?

I will be the first to admit, being a sexual person that I have enjoyed the hook up culture that is so prevolent and growing in our society. And then I end up longing for somebody to talk to at the end of the day. I miss cuddling, and that has nothing to do with sex. I just miss the energy and the vibe. 

You don’t really get that with a hook up, or a friend with benefits and if you do it’s very limited. I don’t think most of the women I have dated really expected to be single. Thier time is spent between thier work and children. As it should be.

My point is, there is not a lot of time spent anymore, on growth or truth. 

If you are young,

you should be able to tell your partner everything you feel. Every desire you have. Every fear and embarrassment. Every insecurity and every fantasy.

Nothing should ever be off bounds between the two of you. When you are together, and you are present with each other, You will know. That’s why it’s called unconditional love and that’s why you tell each other the truth about everything.

And, if you are old, 

like me, almost 45… and you haven’t told your partner every fear or fantasy…you should. I am going to say it just for the sake of saying a couple of things.

Most women want their man to take control. Most women want to be wild and untamed. A lady in the street and a freak in the bed. It’s true. So if  you haven’t been open and honest about what turns you on, now is as good as time as any to get the spark back.

The truth is an amazing thing in life.

 It does truly set you free, enpowers you and enlightens you. And, all of those in your life, including your partner.

In your search for a relationship, if along the way you’re just looking to hook up, be open and honest about that part too. While you may think that you can’t have or do both, I disagree. We are all human and we all have needs.

Being honest and truthful with yourself, and your partner is the healthiest way to grow in a relationship.  It’s about always telling each other the truth and finding your best friend that always has your back. There is nothing complicated about Love.

At the end of the day, that is what it is all about. It is all relative and it is what we are all looking for. That’s why we search each other out. That is why we date, why we look for a relationship, we want Just Love, No BS.

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